paul robertson, the popular pixel animator recently featured on popular kids show & tumblr favorite gravity falls, clearly has a huge woman problem and likes to draw cutesy racist pics of women being raped and murdered. If you have the stomach for a depiction of the murder mutilation and rape of racist caricatures of native women, google his name + “custers revenge” and try and convince yourself that this dude should be getting any kind of work, not to mention working on children’s media.
how is consent culture going to prepare us for situations where we do not realize until later that we are misjudging our own boundaries
I, for one, can accept trading the slower development of people’s sexual self discovery for the benefit of greater cultural understanding of rape/abuse.
absolutely—I’m talking about situations where consent is technically given from everyone involved, but one or more parties later start feeling uncomfortable, like they’ve done things they didn’t really want to, because they thought the other person wanted it, because they felt vague internal pressure to perform, because they thought they wanted it but had a weird sinking feeling in their gut the whole time that they kind of ignored. consent culture did not prepare me for this. consent culture needs to involve not only strict definitions of consent and how to obtain it, but emotional self-knowledge, the ability to check in with oneself as well as others, to recognize vague discomfort and ask why that feeling is there, the strong suggestion that if anything feels even slightly off internally you should stop for a minute and only continue if you can give yourself a consistent and enthusiastic yes. if we don’t learn how to do this, we will set ourselves up for feeling violated when no one has technically done anything wrong, by good consent standards, and that is a shitty feel that’s happened to me and I’m seeing it happen to others, and it’s making me realize consent culture is not covering all its bases.